I have learnt the hard way of dealing with situations, disappointments, betrayals, and or mishaps in my life, yes when something painful happens to you, your automatic reaction would be to defend and attack or to fall in denial which escalates to stress. I am referring to it as the hard way because it takes a very mature person to Understand and Master it.
My journey to self acceptance and self awareness has taught me the freedom in “Forgiveness” and “Acceptance as a healer”, this is not scientifically proven but life experience proven. Many of us have had our lives turned upside down in front of our eyes, and not have the powers to change it as it happens, because at that time one feels powerless, then the automatic reaction would be a series of questions “Why Me? What did I do to deserve all this? Is God alive?” Or a series of request ” World please swallow me now…Please shoot me…If this is a dream please wake me up…” just to name a few, the list is endless.
Forgiveness encompasses a cocktail of: Looking at the situation at hand, Taking a second look at it, dissecting it piece by piece, Then ACCEPTING it, FORGIVING yourself and YOUR part in it, FORGIVING the other PERSON, ACCEPTING YOUR Decision and lastly trying your utmost best to UNDERSTAND the other person’s situation that led to YOU being hurt.
Acceptance plays a vital role in healing…It Begins and Ends the process:
“Acceptance is the first step towards healing
You will be able to release the tension of resistance and your body will have much more energy available to heal itself. When you truly accept, your body shifts into a state of deep relaxation, which is the state where your body can heal.
You can practice the power of acceptance not just with a physical symptom, but with any situation. A traffic jam or a long line at the grocery store is a perfect example. No one likes to be stuck in traffic, but next time you find yourself in this situation, know that you have a choice to react to the situation as you chose.
When you chose acceptance, life’s circumstances have much less power over you than it appears. Remember that the power to heal is inside of you-and so is acceptance. Practice acceptance daily and see your life change.”
By Dr. Katharina Johnson