Bed of Scars

My body is an embodiment of scars
Others too deep to heal and bandage, their roots are deeper than Pacific ocean,
Others a seasonal pain that is triggered by patterns
And others just a scratch on the surface.

A battle field of swords and knives at dawn, I am strong.

Every-day I bath my body in warm salted water, With my heart envying the salt and warmth of the ocean.

To ease and soothe the pain,
I moisturize every inch of me with expensive lotions, oils and cologne. 

To heal the scars,
I bandage my body with my most favorite garments and I walk as if I owe the world nothing.

I wear my most expensive and beautiful smile all day long and the world buys the most expensive lie told by a woman
I am strong…

With every sunset, I cave back to my darkest place in the comfort of my home. All my fears, insecurities, dysfunctionsl relationships, mistakes and heartbreaks come out to play.

I take off the very garments that bandaged me from the world,
And the rawness of my scars lay bare,
Fresh and excruciatingly painful.

Tears draw up pathways on my face, my hands too tired to wipe them, I lay down on my blankets and my pillows wipe away the tears.

As I look at my weak, tired and scarred body with teary face,
I console myself…” day one is sorted,
Let’s take one more breath for day 2” I say.

My body is a bed of scars…


Acceptance as a Healer

I have learnt the hard way of dealing with situations, disappointments, betrayals,  and or mishaps in my life, yes when something painful happens to you, your automatic reaction would be to defend and attack or to fall in denial which escalates to stress. I am referring to it as the hard way because it takes a very mature person to Understand and Master it.

My journey to self acceptance and self awareness has taught me the freedom in “Forgiveness” and “Acceptance as a healer”, this is not scientifically proven but life experience proven. Many of us have had our lives turned upside down in front of our eyes, and not have the powers to change it as it happens, because at that time one feels powerless, then the automatic reaction would be a series of questions “Why Me? What did I do to deserve all this? Is God alive?” Or a series of request ” World please swallow me now…Please shoot me…If this is a dream please wake me up…” just to name a few, the list is endless.

Forgiveness encompasses a cocktail of: Looking at the situation at hand, Taking a second look at it, dissecting it piece by piece, Then ACCEPTING it, FORGIVING yourself and YOUR part in it, FORGIVING the other PERSON, ACCEPTING YOUR Decision and lastly trying your utmost best to UNDERSTAND the other person’s situation that led to YOU being hurt.

Acceptance plays a vital role in healing…It Begins and Ends the process:

“Acceptance is the first step towards healing

You will be able to release the tension of resistance and your body will have much more energy available to heal itself. When you truly accept, your body shifts into a state of deep relaxation, which is the state where your body can heal. 

You can practice the power of acceptance not just with a physical symptom, but with any situation. A traffic jam or a long line at the grocery store is a perfect example. No one likes to be stuck in traffic, but next time you find yourself in this situation, know that you have a choice to react to the situation as you chose.

When you chose acceptance, life’s circumstances have much less power over you than it appears. Remember that the power to heal is inside of you-and so is acceptance. Practice acceptance daily and see your life change.”

By Dr. Katharina Johnson







10773508456_c850c59e2e_cMother is the word ‘God’ on the lips of a little child and the meaning in that little heart.

To all the Mothers near and far, I truly want to honour you today for being the true examples of love in this world – your love is never-ending and it is the love that changes and continues to change this world.

It’s a mother’s love that makes a home complete – interestingly enough the three words that we appreciate the most are: mother, home and heaven. A little girl was once asked where her home is, and she replied, “where Mommy is”.

Thank you for always cheering us on through our lives, so that we can continue the legacy of love that you started in us – may you be totally spoilt and blessed today.

Photo credit: VinothChandar / Foter / CC BY

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Married But Available Men (MBA)

Good day Bloggers

I am irritated by this men that went all out and proved that they love their women up to a point where they invited the whole world to share their happiness (Marriage), and go back and cheat on them.

This men are called MBA’s

They find a good woman, who loves them unconditionally, who would give the world for their happiness, and who creates a home for them, brings joy into their homes, a confident, sexy,  classy and beautiful woman. They turn them into insecure, clingy, jealous, neurotic, parrots and speaking machines by their unfaithfulness.

Here it is a story that happened to me not so long ago:

I have a male married friend who is my friend on my social network, his wife managed to get his password and filtered his social page. There on my time line “I hope You are happy that You are dating a Married man” I mean WTF, there is no evidence that proves otherwise that I may be dating her man or anything of the sort But there is an exchange of inbox massages where I was comforting my friend on his job loss, plans for the future, his fears about his marriage which will be knocked by the loss of his job.

Was I wrong to be there for my friend? Was he wrong to discuss his fears with me? No, We were not wrong to talk and advise one another, that is what friends in times like this are for: To give a shoulder to lean on.

My point is: Love Your woman as You would like Your mother/daughter to be loved. Compliment them daily, tell them You love them daily, make it Your daily mission to see a smile on her face. Plant kisses on her face every chance You get, Hold her by the hand at the mall or park, celebrate her daily.

You keep at that>>>>>> You will rush home everyday to a warm welcome